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I'm not sure that is universally true, tanukialpha. My view is that this "fetish" can actually be viewed as somewhat complimentary to woman, at least in comparison to something like hardcore pornography. In fact, when I finally did have 'the talk' with my girlfriend, I remember her saying at the time that she was just glad I wasn't into porn. I think you could argue that it does "objectify them" in the sense that the women are actors or props in a larger scheme, but I'm not sure you could argue that to be "objectifying" is to be "degrading." If that's the case, then all kinds of things are degrading, such as sports, acting, and entertainment.
I've thought a lot about this because it's important to me. One of the things I've liked about this forum is that the members seem to genuinely respect and care for the women they admire. In the porn world, I've heard men say very nasty and truly objectifying things about women, and seem to care very little about them as people (not all men, but some).
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Agreed that in that sense objectification isn't necessarily degrading. My point was that in the context of this fetish, this mode of interaction emphasizes the physical or fantastical over the personal; disregarding or minimizing the woman's true personality in the transaction. This of course isn't always true, and the two aren't mutually exclusive.