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Old 24-Oct-17, 23:32
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Default Suppressing Libido

Hey guys. I am very busy with school as of late, and I often find myself too distracted to focus on my studies. I have tried doing my business regularly to keep desires at bay, but they come back the next day. Furthermore, there's a desire to watch clips for a long period of time straight, which takes away from my precious time needed for school work.

So, how might I suppress my desires, or otherwise not lose time and attention to them? I'm sure some of you have had a similar problem before.
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Old 25-Oct-17, 05:39
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Default Re: Suppressing Libido

Suppressing Libido is very difficult. But it should be doable to reduce the time you spend just watching clips. If you new to the fetish, it will reduce a bit with the time naturally in most cases.

You might set yourself a time limit for watching watching clips,in this time your allowed to to let your libido free. And do not consider this leisure as a waste of time then, but as an need to get new energy for and relaxation from your hard studies. but do not let it consume too much time.

You might allow your more time, for the case that you have studied successfully and such uses as a reward for reaching certain goals.
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Don't study for too long at once. That's honestly huge. 45min to an hour in one sitting. Most people can't concentrate for longer than that unless they are REALLY into the subject they're studying (which obviously doesn't apply here, because if you were, you wouldn't constantly be watching to watch clips instead).

Most of the time, we watch porn or fetish stuff because we're bored. Not necessarily because we're actually horny. If you were horny, you'd want to go find a girl and have sex, or at least masturbate and be done with it. This wouldn't consume hours of your time. Well...the girl-finding part maybe, assuming you don't have a gf, but you probably wouldn't be doing it 'every day.'

Study in smaller blocks of time, then go do something else for awhile. You can watch clips then, I guess, but your life won't be negatively impacted if you just force yourself to get up and do something that's outside of your house. If you have an indoor hobby (reading, drawing, music, etc.) that you're really into, can go do that as well. Doesn't matter what. Keep the video watching to a certain day, or a certain time of the week, if you feel like you can't go without it.
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Old 29-Oct-17, 15:06
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If you were horny, you'd want to go find a girl and have sex, or at least masturbate and be done with it.
I agree. Masturbate and be done with it. Don't watch clips for hours and hours. As soon as you masturbate, you'll be able to concentrate on other things. If your desire comes back, masturbate again. You'll waste much less time this way.
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Old 30-Oct-17, 00:03
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I think that trying to suppress your desires will make them stronger and more uncontrollable. A constant struggle could bring more pressure and disappointment.
I would also advise you to focus on other things you like, to balance your time better. And it is best to not overthink about sexuality, in order to alleviate some worries.
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The thing is, I'm actually interested in a lot of what I study. It is true that I can read something I love for long periods of time, but actual work is different. Even if it's on a topic I love, I usually find myself distracted from writing papers. I don't learn anything new from doing so, and it feels so unrewarding and not fun at all. Fetish clips, however, are immediately and continuly rewarding. It also requires zero effort. Work is the complete opposite.
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The thing is, I'm actually interested in a lot of what I study. It is true that I can read something I love for long periods of time, but actual work is different. Even if it's on a topic I love, I usually find myself distracted from writing papers. I don't learn anything new from doing so, and it feels so unrewarding and not fun at all. Fetish clips, however, are immediately and continuly rewarding. It also requires zero effort. Work is the complete opposite.

I understand your situation. Indeed from time to time I find myself in a similar situation. Then, the goal is to set right limits. After all, a day has 24 hours. Assume 12 of them are gone with sleeping, eating, showering, doing housework and so on. You still have half of the day! Of course it is a good idea to set limits on the time spent on watching clips, but you can get away with it even after setting those limits!

I mean: assume you will waste 2 hours a day with clips (which is, of course, an exageration, 1 or 1/2 would be a more realistic approach) Is the amount of time you are left with enough? If it is, simply say to yourself: "There will not be one more day in my life on which I'll waste more than 2 hours with my clips" Live your life as if breaking that law would send you to jail. I promise you'll be fine.

My advice would be to avoid "rewards" like "if I get an A on this exam, then it's three hours that evening" because that will set you in the wrong mood towards "clip abuse" If you want to leave it behind, you can't feel it as something good, as a "reward". It is just like alcohol, if you want to moderate your consumption, set limits to it and join the willpower to make them a reality.

As a personal experience, I always liked to go to bed really late and them stay in bed long into the afternoon. For some time, I would be waking up around 4pm. Of course it is not the same issue as yours, but it was putting me into trouble anyway! One day I said to myself "OK. From now on. I'll never stay at bed later than 10am (please keep in mind that, in my region, solar noon happens at 2pm instead of at 12). No excuse. No matter hwo much I partied the night before. No matter anything) That choice was one of the best I took in my entire life, so I encourage you to do the same!

One final word about reward and effort: Succesful people are often those who can sacrifice present pleasure for the sake of a greater future pleasure. This applies to money, work, love... basically any aspect of your life. Specially while you're young!
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Weighing in... As a veteran in this scene, I completely agree with Herr Gerhard.
Ironically now that I can afford anything reasonable in my later years, my desire for quick and excessive gratification has softened (please don't take that literally).
BUT balance is indeed the key, as he sagely says.
We no longer have to hide reels of 8mm film and spend excessive amounts of our weekly budget on our kink... the internet has completely transformed this scene in so many ways.

"All things in moderation... including moderation" -Oscar Wilde
"They just don't make nostalgia like they used to" -George Carlin

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Old 10-Dec-17, 17:29
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One very effective way to "suppress" libido is to meditate. There are a lot of different kinds of meditation, many of which would work, but for beginners, I would just recommend the book "8 Minute Meditation" by Victor Davich.

Meditation works because it teaches you to quietly observe your emotions and impulsive thoughts with acceptance but without reaction. Or, if you have a reaction, it teaches you to quietly observe your reaction while just maintaining calm breath.

I wouldn't recommend this if it hadn't worked for me. About four years ago, I met this obscenely gorgeous woman who used me as a grappling dummy to show off her jiu-jitsu skills. Since then, I've been friends with her and her sisters, but I had been too shy to do anything about it. So my balls have been blue for that long, and I learned how to meditate through that intense desire. Meditation was a lifesaver for me.
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