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Old 09-Apr-16, 07:34
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Do you think this is worthy of therapy? Sometimes I'm not sure how big or small of a problem this is. Sometimes I try shrugging it off, sometimes I feel hopeless. I almost don't want to let go of it (like a druggie), but it's also increasingly difficult to satisfy fantasies. How would I even go about such therapy?
I'm of the opinion that therapy is never harmful, provided the therapist is at least marginally competent. You can also move around and find a therapist you like.

I'm not sure a fetish is something to cure, that's a whole nother ball of wax, but discussing a fetish with a therapist and getting a 2nd opinion seems like a fair and reasonable thing to do. When I was young, I was much too uptight, and my first GF thought my fetish was weird and I should talk to a shrink about it, and this was college so shrinks were available as a free service.

Well, I went and I talked but I didn't want to be there and Dr. Shrink knew I didn't want to be there, and that I was just there for my GF and I wasted 45 minutes of both of our times (or 30 minutes, or 25, I don't remember), so, it only makes sense if someone wants to, but if the OP wants to see a Shrink and discuss, there's no harm in that.


But, my personal feeling is, if the OP looks around enough, he mgiht find a skinny lady who's grateful for the appreciation. But on getting fat for the lady, I wouldn't do that. Keep yourself fit and at normal weight. I used to think it would be funny to drop weight and get down to 130 lbs so I'd be the same weight as some of the ladies I dated, but that was kind of a silly thing to want. I was naturally 155 at my skinniest, maybe 160-165 into my 30s. It wouldn't have been healthy for me to drop that much weight.
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Old 10-Apr-16, 20:42
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With that said, couldn't you fulfill your fetish easily anywhere in SE Asia?
I don't know. I'm not exactly aware of the typical size of a SE Asian woman, or how easy it would be to find someone there who fits the bill and would be willing to provide such a service. If it's really that easy, I know where my first vacation will be...
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I'm of the opinion that therapy is never harmful, provided the therapist is at least marginally competent. You can also move around and find a therapist you like.

I'm not sure a fetish is something to cure, that's a whole nother ball of wax, but discussing a fetish with a therapist and getting a 2nd opinion seems like a fair and reasonable thing to do. When I was young, I was much too uptight, and my first GF thought my fetish was weird and I should talk to a shrink about it, and this was college so shrinks were available as a free service.

Well, I went and I talked but I didn't want to be there and Dr. Shrink knew I didn't want to be there, and that I was just there for my GF and I wasted 45 minutes of both of our times (or 30 minutes, or 25, I don't remember), so, it only makes sense if someone wants to, but if the OP wants to see a Shrink and discuss, there's no harm in that.


But, my personal feeling is, if the OP looks around enough, he mgiht find a skinny lady who's grateful for the appreciation. But on getting fat for the lady, I wouldn't do that. Keep yourself fit and at normal weight. I used to think it would be funny to drop weight and get down to 130 lbs so I'd be the same weight as some of the ladies I dated, but that was kind of a silly thing to want. I was naturally 155 at my skinniest, maybe 160-165 into my 30s. It wouldn't have been healthy for me to drop that much weight.
Thanks for the advice. I am gaining weight because I myself am underweight (was 45kg, 1.66m). Of course, I'll be working out once I get the chance (or at lest working a physical job).
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Revisiting this topic... I was originally worried about the moral implications of my fetish. However, as my friend has pointed out, it also makes me "picky". I have been looking for an escort, checking multiple websites, and even asking friends about people they know. However, I have yet to find someone who is small enough. I don't think I can change or get rid of my fetish, and I can't find a girl who can satisfy it... what do I do?

To be fair, I have seen girls who are small enough, but they weren't escorts. I even asked one girl, but she wasn't interested. I don't know why, but the only small girls aren't interested in escorting... why is it there are no small escorts?
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why is it there are no small escorts?
I think we're sort of going through a revolution where bigger and more full figured women are accepted and even deemed more sexy than skinny women in general society. Ironically, skinnier girls were once more glorified than thicker women. Now, with an influx of plus size models, such as Ashley Graham
or Tess Holiday, completely changing the fashion industry and altering the way people view women. Thus, skinnier girls now want to be "thicker". At least, that's my guess.

I don't think I can give you the best advice, but I would suggest maybe taking some time off from indulging in this fetish. Stop watching mixed combat videos, searching pictures, etc for a little bit. Do something that takes your mind off of this topic for a while. Whether it is something like cooking, hiking, or even hanging out with all different types of women, use that activity to concentrate on other things in life. I enjoy the mixed combat fetish, but even I will admit, it does take up some time.
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Old 16-Jun-17, 15:15
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I think we're sort of going through a revolution where bigger and more full figured women are accepted and even deemed more sexy than skinny women in general society. Ironically, skinnier girls were once more glorified than thicker women. Now, with an influx of plus size models, such as Ashley Graham
or Tess Holiday, completely changing the fashion industry and altering the way people view women. Thus, skinnier girls now want to be "thicker". At least, that's my guess.

I don't think I can give you the best advice, but I would suggest maybe taking some time off from indulging in this fetish. Stop watching mixed combat videos, searching pictures, etc for a little bit. Do something that takes your mind off of this topic for a while. Whether it is something like cooking, hiking, or even hanging out with all different types of women, use that activity to concentrate on other things in life. I enjoy the mixed combat fetish, but even I will admit, it does take up some time.
I think about it a lot, but I only indulge in it once every day or two, for 30 minutes or less. Rarely will I indulge for an hour. The less I do, however, the more I think about it, which makes those activities difficult. Furthermore, I'm a homebody. I prefer to stay home and write philosophy, or play video games. A friend of mine told me to go to a bar, which I've been thinking about, but I'm ill-prepared for social interaction with women (which is why I'm interested in paying for an escort). I'm not going to pay for a girl if I'm not attracted to her, so the bar route seems like the only option.

I'm not interested in cooking, hiking, or giving up (even temporarily) on indulging in my fetish. I can't do something to get my mind off of it, because that only makes me think of it. I think, if I should hang out with all different types of women, I'd have to go to a bar, mall, etcetera.
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I think about it a lot, but I only indulge in it once every day or two, for 30 minutes or less. Rarely will I indulge for an hour. The less I do, however, the more I think about it, which makes those activities difficult. Furthermore, I'm a homebody. I prefer to stay home and write philosophy, or play video games. A friend of mine told me to go to a bar, which I've been thinking about, but I'm ill-prepared for social interaction with women (which is why I'm interested in paying for an escort). I'm not going to pay for a girl if I'm not attracted to her, so the bar route seems like the only option.

I'm not interested in cooking, hiking, or giving up (even temporarily) on indulging in my fetish. I can't do something to get my mind off of it, because that only makes me think of it. I think, if I should hang out with all different types of women, I'd have to go to a bar, mall, etcetera.
Why wouldn't you use internet dating? I'm not an expert on internet dating since I never used it myself but it seems like it would be a perfect opportunity for you to find random small girls.

Meeting women in bars and outside isn't that good of an idea if you're picky because more often than not you'll just be wasting time if you're really looking for something specific. I wasted time dating women I met outside because I'm really picky due to this fetish. If I were just looking for sex it would be ok but I just had no interest to have sex with those girls and they didn't seem like the really have anything to offer to me.
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Why wouldn't you use internet dating? I'm not an expert on internet dating since I never used it myself but it seems like it would be a perfect opportunity for you to find random small girls.

Meeting women in bars and outside isn't that good of an idea if you're picky because more often than not you'll just be wasting time if you're really looking for something specific. I wasted time dating women I met outside because I'm really picky due to this fetish. If I were just looking for sex it would be ok but I just had no interest to have sex with those girls and they didn't seem like the really have anything to offer to me.
We'll, I've tried online dating (being online helps make up for my lack of social skills), but I can't find anyone there either. I'm really small myself (5'5", 100-110lbs), so small to me is really small, like 100lbs at the most, and that's pushing it. It's really hard to find girls that small, but I like the idea of how humiliating it is to lose to a smaller girl. I've tried putting on mass, but I couldn't do it.
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We'll, I've tried online dating (being online helps make up for my lack of social skills), but I can't find anyone there either. I'm really small myself (5'5", 100-110lbs), so small to me is really small, like 100lbs at the most, and that's pushing it. It's really hard to find girls that small, but I like the idea of how humiliating it is to lose to a smaller girl. I've tried putting on mass, but I couldn't do it.
Hey you're almost small enough for Grappling Girls, they might hire you for some videos but you might have to diet a little to be acceptable
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We'll, I've tried online dating (being online helps make up for my lack of social skills), but I can't find anyone there either. I'm really small myself (5'5", 100-110lbs), so small to me is really small, like 100lbs at the most, and that's pushing it. It's really hard to find girls that small, but I like the idea of how humiliating it is to lose to a smaller girl. I've tried putting on mass, but I couldn't do it.
Anyone can put on some mass, it's just a matter of training and diet. Why wouldn't you concentrate on that and work hard for it? If you work hard for something you get it. Also, having a set goal helps you to organize your life around it easier.
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