Do you prefer being dominated or watching domination?

Originally Posted by georgejohnson [Only Registered Users Can See LinksClick Here To Register]

My personal opinion is the best sessions are where I come up with a scenario and feel half-ashamed to admit I want to be treated in such a way. If the shame is not there, no use in doing a session around it.

It seems if you're genuinely unable to defeat a woman it'll be embarrassing although that alone could be less and less embarrassing the more sessions you have.

I was properly embarrassed in my first session and will never forget it. I asked for competitive and was expecting to go easy/feel sorry for the girl (Sable from LWS) but she was able to beat me so easily. It took her about 20 seconds for each of the first two taps. So after about a minute I was tired and out of breath, and I asked for a break. I still remember her small laugh when I asked. And I also remember thinking 'what are we going to do for the rest of the hour because I cannot do this for an hour'. It definitely was embarrassing.

Because my expectations have completed shifted (I now know that girls like Sable can beat me easily) I have never felt anything close to this embarrassment since. I've tried scenarios but have yet to find one that works for me.

[XOL]

Originally Posted by JohnODubhghaill [Only Registered Users Can See LinksClick Here To Register]

It's more that I want to be embarrassed than brutalized. It feels sexist to say it but I think it is really embarrassing for a guy if a hot girl can beat him.

But in sessions I just don't get embarrassed as we both know that I am there to lose so.

Okay. I don't think that statement is sexist. The overwhelming majority of guys are not going to lose to a girl but of course there are real variables at hand such as physical fitness and martial arts training.

If you don't mind me asking, why is the embarrassment important to you? Or has it just been that way for as long as you can remember?

[qwertyuio]

Originally Posted by JohnODubhghaill [Only Registered Users Can See LinksClick Here To Register]

I was properly embarrassed in my first session and will never forget it. I asked for competitive and was expecting to go easy/feel sorry for the girl (Sable from LWS) but she was able to beat me so easily. It took her about 20 seconds for each of the first two taps. So after about a minute I was tired and out of breath, and I asked for a break. I still remember her small laugh when I asked. And I also remember thinking 'what are we going to do for the rest of the hour because I cannot do this for an hour'. It definitely was embarrassing.

Because my expectations have completed shifted (I now know that girls like Sable can beat me easily) I have never felt anything close to this embarrassment since. I've tried scenarios but have yet to find one that works for me.

I felt the exact same way when I was first destroyed in a competitive session. I still feel that way for the most part. Where no matter how many times I've lost and the girl's reputation, I still somehow can't believe I will actually lose when I first see her because of her size and looks.

Originally Posted by XOL [Only Registered Users Can See LinksClick Here To Register]

If you don't mind me asking, why is the embarrassment important to you? Or has it just been that way for as long as you can remember?

I can't really say 'why' but the embarrassment has been a big part of the hotness for me for as long as I can remember.

Maybe it is because I have been embarrassed before (I have). I don't know.

[Alexios]

I prefer being dominated but in a specific way. I like to be squeezed and smothered but not twisted or punched and it needs to be done in a playful, teasing manner. I have absolutely no interest in being brutalized or beat-down. I like watching other guys getting that playful squeezing domination too but there’s always a strong string of jealousy in there as well. I’ve had sessions before and while all the women I’ve sessioned with have been amazing, my favorites aren’t the ones where I most thoroughly got my ass kicked but the ones who were best able to hit that playful squeezing spot.

[georgejohnson]

Originally Posted by JohnODubhghaill [Only Registered Users Can See LinksClick Here To Register]

It feels sexist to say it but I think it is really embarrassing for a guy if a hot girl can beat him.

Yep.

a) I'm very attracted to really athletic women
b) These women tend to date only bodybuilders or other extremely ripped people or maybe really rich older guys
c) When a woman like this beats you physically, especially if it's not close there's a big feeling of inadequacy.

For me, these sessions are masochism that turns me on. I have had non-masochistic sessions too but those aren't the majority and definitely not the reason I began sessioning.

Originally Posted by XOL [Only Registered Users Can See LinksClick Here To Register]

I never felt ashamed about doing it and definitely never wanted to feel ashamed about it.

Yeah everybody's not in it for masochism. Different strokes different folks.

[georgejohnson]

Originally Posted by JohnODubhghaill [Only Registered Users Can See LinksClick Here To Register]

Because my expectations have completed shifted (I now know that girls like Sable can beat me easily) I have never felt anything close to this embarrassment since. I've tried scenarios but have yet to find one that works for me.

For me, sessioning with someone who has totally destroyed me becomes humiliating all over once they get into a facesit position again. It's like they have ownership all over again.

Prior to that, the initial fanboi nervousness is gone from when I first began sessioning so it takes some buildup to get that back.

[Ryan Futuristics]

I bet if you asked 100 people, whose first sexual experience was with a prostitute, probably most came away feeling the same: half satisfied, but missing something – and maybe deciding to stick to porn

I actually don't get much from watching videos – I used to, but I've been desensitised, being into this since about the age of 8 ... I still visit sites like this, but I get more from suggestive real life experiences

e.g. I was seeing a girl I liked who was a climber, and tall .. And I had a kind of hang-up that she might be stronger than me – she could do 20 pull-ups, at about my body weight, and would flex and arm wrestle people (by reputation) ... And the suggestion was what made it interesting (and what attracted me to her) ... But had it become a reality, I think it would've been embarrassing – or I'd have won, and the fantasy would collapse

Originally Posted by Alexios [Only Registered Users Can See LinksClick Here To Register]

...... but there’s always a strong string of jealousy in there as well

Yeah, when watching someone get dominated I also get jealous. I think the guy is so lucky to have such a pretty girl wrapping herself around him (or whatever she is doing to him).

There is also the knowledge that I can't have it myself if I'm just watching it on a screen (or in person). This makes me want it more and makes it more arousing.

I often find myself wanting to wrestle girls that I know in real life even more than I want to wrestle the top session girls. But it always tends to be the girls that, for whatever reason, there is absolutely no chance will I ever get to wrestle them.

I think I just naturally want what I can't have - and, in this sense, watching domination arouses me more.

[desertgoodguy]

Over the 6 years my wife and I have been wrestling, there are times when she goes into a "dom mode".

By that I mean she apllies painful holds and will not let go until she is good and damn ready

She knows it annoys me and I think she does the dom thing just to prove a point

First time she did it, scared the hell out of me, and we did not wrestle for a month or two after that

Our matches are good matches, and she is a very skilled wrestler, but at the same time, when she wants to go dom, I have learned to just go with the flow and enjoy it