So I finally told my partner...

[mark peakock]

I finally grew some balls and told my partner about my wrestling fetish.

We were out in the back yard catching some sun on our deck and Id maneuvered my way to lying with my head between her legs, I was just enjoying the feeling of her legs either side of my head when she started to playfully clamp them to together.

She then said I wonder if anyone has ever been crushed to death like this...

I told her no but you could definitely choke someone out like that, but your doing it wrong you have to cross your ankles, straighten your legs and squeeze, which she did but not very hard as she obviously wasn't trying to hurt me and as it was around my head not my neck anyway so It was just pressure to my head not choking.

She was talking as she squeezed me a few times, but her thighs cupped my ears and I couldn't hear her, and besides I was to mesmerized by the vision of her entwined legs in front of me.

It didn't last long and before long she had stopped and the conversation had moved elsewhere and then shortly after that she got up and went on with her day, not knowing how impacted I was by what just happened, although she's tall and has long legs so her feet were resting on my fairly obvious erection as she squeezed but me being hard around her isn't anything new so she wouldn't have thought anything of it.

I should have said something then and there but I was a little bitch.
Anyway, she went of to the gym a bit later, trained legs if your wondering... and while she was at the gym I messaged her and said I need to tell you something when you get home, when she came in after the gym she came straight up to me and as we stood in the kitchen and kissed and embraced for a bit she asked what was up, I then very nervously told her that I had this wrestling fetish and what happened before outside turned me on...

Not surprisingly she had never heard of it and was a little surprised but didn't react negatively, and said well you will have to show me some of this wrestling stuff, because I was so nervous I didn't push it then and there and the conversation moved elsewhere again.

So now the door is opened, question is what should I show her ? because we are intimate and have been for over 10 years im not sure if I should show her the more sexual stuff you'll find on porn hub or the strictly wrestling stuff.

what do you guys think?

[Toms777]

Show her what turns you on. She seems receptive. Just don’t go overboard with the frequency. Take it slowly.

[LicensetoKill]

I don't think there was anything wrong with not saying anything. It's a marathon not a sprint. Let her get used to it. As far as what to show her, I still like Alyssa Wright's book, but that's hard to find. Somebody posted it here a while back but there was a page or two missing.

Xenia Onatopp is another possibility. Explain that a lot of guys have Xenia fantasies. That's all I've got. I'm far from an expert in relationships but the mistakes I've made when I've introduced GFs to my fetish is that I pushed my desires and what I wanted them to do too hard.

[Tenzin]

No Xenia video. That will freak her out! It has to be done in a fun, non creepy way. Find a headscissor challenge video on you tube where the girl makes the guy tap but they are laughing and having fun as they do it. Explain to her why you like it. Tell her it feels like cuddling, you feel warm inside. Don’t get into the sexual aspect of it the first time. Like was mentioned earlier it’s a marathon not a sprint. This works well for me. Make it fun fun fun.

[LicensetoKill]

Originally Posted by Tenzin [Only Registered Users Can See LinksClick Here To Register]

No Xenia video. That will freak her out! It has to be done in a fun, non creepy way. Find a headscissor challenge video on you tube where the girl makes the guy tap but they are laughing and having fun as they do it. Explain to her why you like it. Tell her it feels like cuddling, you feel warm inside. Don’t get into the sexual aspect of it the first time. Like was mentioned earlier it’s a marathon not a sprint. This works well for me. Make it fun fun fun.

My take is that there's some thing comic-booky about the Xenia scenes. That they're not meant to be taken seriously as a woman actually killing a man, but more of a super-spy role play scenario.

Of course, you make a good point too. Different people could interpret it different ways.

I had a failed experience with a GF when I showed her videos. One or two scenes where guys started turning blue bothered her and she wanted no part of any of it after that and I don't even remember the guys turning blue (these were C&B videos, pretty tame I thought). But she quickly decided she didn't want any part of that.

[lovefvsf]

Do you have a wrestling fetish or a scissor fetish or is it domination & being controlled?

You said wrestling, but the majority of people here do not have a wrestling fetish, because that to me is watching two women doing competitive submission wrestling.

That is my fetish and then yes I would like a competitive roll with a female (the important word being competitive). I do not want to be beaten up.

I watch more & more mixed matches that are competitive admittedly, but not to see the male, just a good match. Many of those are at FD & DWW.

Getting a woman to understand you get off watching men get scissored, dominated, controlled & humiliated by females is something else.

For F vs. F start with VeVe or Robin or what I thought was a real match but then eventually learned was not Beatrice vs. Ali Day, where they are in bikinis and while fit and attractive are not drop dead knock outs (or barely out of their teens) and would be considered intimidating. If that is a worry, old ladyhawke or Judell too my be a better bet.

If mixed I'd find Marek vs. Hana who were BF/GF @ the time and a great mixed clothed match. Think it is on pornhub.

I'd be very slow moving to men getting squeezed for 30 minutes, though I'd expect women to just find those videos weird.

Now Xenia Onatop (sp) and others in film are a good way to start too if your fetish is being passively scissored,

[ClckwrkOra]

Originally Posted by mark peakock [Only Registered Users Can See LinksClick Here To Register]

I finally grew some balls and told my partner about my wrestling fetish.

We were out in the back yard catching some sun on our deck and Id maneuvered my way to lying with my head between her legs, I was just enjoying the feeling of her legs either side of my head when she started to playfully clamp them to together.

She then said I wonder if anyone has ever been crushed to death like this...

I told her no but you could definitely choke someone out like that, but your doing it wrong you have to cross your ankles, straighten your legs and squeeze, which she did but not very hard as she obviously wasn't trying to hurt me and as it was around my head not my neck anyway so It was just pressure to my head not choking.

She was talking as she squeezed me a few times, but her thighs cupped my ears and I couldn't hear her, and besides I was to mesmerized by the vision of her entwined legs in front of me.

It didn't last long and before long she had stopped and the conversation had moved elsewhere and then shortly after that she got up and went on with her day, not knowing how impacted I was by what just happened, although she's tall and has long legs so her feet were resting on my fairly obvious erection as she squeezed but me being hard around her isn't anything new so she wouldn't have thought anything of it.

I should have said something then and there but I was a little bitch.
Anyway, she went of to the gym a bit later, trained legs if your wondering... and while she was at the gym I messaged her and said I need to tell you something when you get home, when she came in after the gym she came straight up to me and as we stood in the kitchen and kissed and embraced for a bit she asked what was up, I then very nervously told her that I had this wrestling fetish and what happened before outside turned me on...

Not surprisingly she had never heard of it and was a little surprised but didn't react negatively, and said well you will have to show me some of this wrestling stuff, because I was so nervous I didn't push it then and there and the conversation moved elsewhere again.

So now the door is opened, question is what should I show her ? because we are intimate and have been for over 10 years im not sure if I should show her the more sexual stuff you'll find on porn hub or the strictly wrestling stuff.

what do you guys think?

If you're unsure how she'll react, it never hurts to start small, with less-sexual stuff that is lower risk.

If she reacts negatively to that, then you know to go no further.

If she finds it intriguing, you can always show progressively earthier stuff later.

[crazycrazy]

I would not start with a video if I were you. I dont think it's a good idea. Tell her what you like, ask her what she would want from the encounter, and make sure she enjoys it too. You've been intimate for ten years, you know how to get her to where she needs to go. Incorporate that into the experience. An enthusiastic partner is more important than any other element. Let the videos wait until there is mutual interest. Or let her find her own videos and she can tell you what she wants you to do.

[lovefvsf]

Originally Posted by crazycrazy [Only Registered Users Can See LinksClick Here To Register]

I would not start with a video if I were you. I dont think it's a good idea. Tell her what you like, ask her what she would want from the encounter, and make sure she enjoys it too. You've been intimate for ten years, you know how to get her to where she needs to go. Incorporate that into the experience. An enthusiastic partner is more important than any other element. Let the videos wait until there is mutual interest. Or let her find her own videos and she can tell you what she wants you to do.

Again it depends what the fetish is. Sorry if it is having the life squeezed out of you, a video would be hard to stomach (if she doesn't watch, roll her eyes and laugh at the absurdity of it).

If it is rolling around and fun wrestling, to me that is two females. From there saying you want to roll around too, that to me is intimacy.

If your fetish is catfights and people really fighting & being hurt that is something else.

Again this "interest" of ours takes many many forms.

[ClckwrkOra]

Originally Posted by lovefvsf [Only Registered Users Can See LinksClick Here To Register]

Do you have a wrestling fetish or a scissor fetish or is it domination & being controlled?

You said wrestling, but the majority of people here do not have a wrestling fetish, because that to me is watching two women doing competitive submission wrestling.

That is my fetish and then yes I would like a competitive roll with a female (the important word being competitive). I do not want to be beaten up.

I watch more & more mixed matches that are competitive admittedly, but not to see the male, just a good match. Many of those are at FD & DWW.

Getting a woman to understand you get off watching men get scissored, dominated, controlled & humiliated by females is something else.

For F vs. F start with VeVe or Robin or what I thought was a real match but then eventually learned was not Beatrice vs. Ali Day, where they are in bikinis and while fit and attractive are not drop dead knock outs (or barely out of their teens) and would be considered intimidating. If that is a worry, old ladyhawke or Judell too my be a better bet.

If mixed I'd find Marek vs. Hana who were BF/GF @ the time and a great mixed clothed match. Think it is on pornhub.

I'd be very slow moving to men getting squeezed for 30 minutes, though I'd expect women to just find those videos weird.

Now Xenia Onatop (sp) and others in film are a good way to start too if your fetish is being passively scissored,

[Only Registered Users Can See LinksClick Here To Register]: sexual arousal from inanimate objects, such as shoes or body parts.

[Only Registered Users Can See LinksClick Here To Register]: arousal from from something non-sexual, whether inanimate objects or behaviors.

Getting turned on by wrestling is a paraphilia, apparently. Fetishes are a separate subset of paraphilias.