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Motivation is okay, but discipline gets results. |
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As you say this is not something that has ever been researched scientifically, yet these articles talk about "rebooting" your brain as though it were a scientifically accepted and understood process. |
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A girl best-friend had the same thing, and was quite worried about it - she got "bored" of sex and could only be aroused when being spanked ... and it got in the way of her relationship at the time (and of her friends had had similar things) I found myself getting to where I wasn't interested enough in regular sex, and I was indulging this fetish too often online, etc. What worked for me was abstaining from sex/masturbation for maybe 2 or 3 months, and then it wasn't like the old turn-ons went away, but they were certainly in a much healthier balance with plain old vanilla |
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Are you guys Christians or what?
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2. Did you have a passive dad? (Passive, but aggressive) 3. Did you long for female company in your early teens to 20s but didn't get it? (No and don't need, since I never saw such a girl what I would like) 4. Are you thin boned for a man? (No) 5. Did you have any form of anxiety or depression for many years in your teens? (No) 6. Were you insulted (social embarrassment) by girl (s) you were attracted to? (No) 7. Did you see a girl close to you be treated better often? (Yes) 8. Were you humiliated at a loss at a sport or fight with a girl at a young age? (No) 9. Were you beaten by your mom often? (No) Quote:
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So even if what I say isn't universally true, it's a massive stretch to say it's baseless. These rebooting articles don't seem very Scientific to me, it's a Cognitive process, not a Biological one. |
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Effective...to accomplish what exactly?
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"Rebooting" did work for me : on watching TV and listening to mass medias.
I unplugged my TV antenna 13 years ago and never put it back since. The first weeks or months I felt alone and cut off, missing the programs I used to watch and the journalists I used to trust. But it slowly felt like reapropriating my brain, I was more curious about events, including past ones, started to realize some of their lies and propaganda technics, I began to search who they belonged to, and from there it was over. My point is that abstinence worked only because it allowed me to see the object of my addiction from outside and judge it, and because this judgment was disgust. On the other hand when I was with my fiancée and thinking of no other woman than her, implicitlty abstaining from watching and meeting physicaly superior and dominant women for over a year, it never made me feel that this fascination had been harmful for me or bad in itself. In this case "rebooting" didn't lead to "quitting". |
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The post you reference said that he found a better balance, not that his desires went away. And before that we have other posters saying this stuff didn't work for them. Indeed one of the reasons this actually doesnt seem logical to me is because our interests didn't come from porn. For most of us we developed fetishes based on past experiences or in some cases for reasons we can't fully explain. But its not like we watch porn and are then corrupted by it. It may be the case that porn in some instances can exacerbate the issue but the core desire was always there. Porn just opens new avenues to enjoy it. I know for me I started watching porn far after most of my friends then but I was still having these fantasies years before I even knew sites like this existed. Junk medicine has been debunked, yet some still honestly swear by it. Theres never been a study to verify or deny this "rebooting" and as I've said, some unmonitored success stories doesn't really cut it. You've insisting, especially in the first post from you I quoted, that there are certain fetishes that everyone should be able to completely do away with and I don't see where you have a leg to stand on there. The same is true with your statement about people being able to change certain sexualities but not others. Last edited by enigma; 21-Feb-15 at 21:38. |
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