Older guy starts fight with his brother's younger girlfriend and gets his ass kicked

[PurpleCat]

Interesting story I saw on reddit where OPs younger girlfriend beat up his older brother when he started the fight.

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Part 1
I introduced my girlfriend to my parents, siblings and extended family on a family get together a few days ago. This was the first time I had seen them since the start of the pandemic and it started out really well with everyone getting along and having fun. That would change as more alcohol was consumed.

My girlfriend and brother got into a heated political argument that suddenly escalated to violence resulting in substantial injuries for both of them. Accounts of who throw the first punch differ and I frankly don't care as they both actively contributed to the fight and antagonized each other. The fight was eventually broken up when my girlfriend had the clear advantage. My mom screamed at my girlfriend to leave so we left.

I love both my girlfriend and my brother and I don't blame either one of them for the fight more then I blame the other. My girlfriend also doesn't seem to hold any grudges and is embarrassed by her behavior during the incident. My brother and parents on the other hand place 100% of the blame on my girlfriend and demand that I break up with her or they will cut all ties with me. I will not do that but I want to maintain my relationship with my family and somehow get them to accept my girlfriend and that she should not bear all blame for this incident.

My brother is also demanding that my girlfriend pay for his alleged medical expenses and is threatening to report her to the police if she refuse. My experience of growing up in this town makes me think sexism in the local police department makes it unlikely that anything would come of that report as they would almost certainly refuse to consider the possibility that a woman can assault a man. I have offered to pay off my brother but my girlfriend refuses to let me do that and says that she will pay him if he can prove that the medical expenses are real. My girlfriend still has clearly visible injuries but did not visit the hospital. I suggested that she go to get her injuries documented but she doesn't want to do that.

I just wish everyone could forget about this and move forward but writing this makes me think my family is acing unreasonably and perhaps I should just cut contact with them as they are threatening to do with me. Perhaps growing up with these people makes me blind to how ridiculous their behavior is? I don't know what I should do.

Part 2
Thank you for all the advice and apologies for the vagueness of my original post. I showed it to my girlfriend and she agreed that it was vague and thought I left out important details. I will let her provide those details at the end.

You convinced me that it may actually matter who throw the first punch. Before making the original post, I had heard two mutually exclusive versions of events. One told by my girlfriend and one told by my parents and my brother. It's honestly very hard for me to believe that any of them would lie about something like this.

I have since reached out to everyone else who may have seen how it started and received two relevant replies. One from my aunt who confirmed my parents' and brother's version and one from my youngest sister (18f) who described a scenario similar to what my girlfriend had told me. Everyone who sided with my brother has obviously had the opportunity to talk with him and each other and intentionally or unintentionally influence each other's story. It's very unlikely that my girlfriend and sister has done that as they don't know each other and my sister would have no reason to lie for my girlfriend. I don't think there is a reasonable explanation for them telling the same story other then that it's the truth. I'm therefore almost certain that my brother hit my girlfriend first.

My parents have recanted the threat to cut ties with me for not braking up with my girlfriend but they are still saying that she is not welcome back to their home and "will never be part of our family". I'm honestly done with them at this point. She has done everything and more including being willing to pay for his medical expenses and my brother refuse to even hear her apology much less make his own or take any responsibility at all. At this point, I'm 100% behind my girlfriend just as my parents are 100% behind my brother.

Many people commenting on the original post asked if my brother is racist or assumed that he is after I revealed what the argument was about. I'm honestly not sure how to answer that. My brother sometimes repeats racist talking points from TV and social media especially against Hispanic people but last year he was strongly against the deportation of a neighboring family who had immigrated from Mexico. He even (probably facetiously) suggested that their deportation was a conspiracy to undermine Trump's immigration policy by deporting "good people instead of violent criminals". I have never heard my brother use a racial slur or seen him treat anyone differently because of their race. I guess the answer depends on how you define racism.

TL;DR: My brother probably throw the first punch and my family won't cut ties with me completely but I'm mostly done with them.

My girlfriend's comment:

This is what I think happened based on what I remember, assume, and was told afterwards. It's probably not entirely correct.

We where all sitting around a big outdoor table. I was sitting between my boyfriend and his brother. We talked about non-political things like places we had been or wanted to travel to but then someone mentioned the protests and my boyfriend's brother immediately responded by calling the protesters terrorists. I asked what made them terrorists and if the cops where also terrorists by that definition. I don't remember how he responded but the argument continued from there. We where drinking progressively more alcohol as we continued to argue, almost like if we were in an unspoken drinking contest. At some point we both stood up and continued to argue loudly while getting in each other’s face.

My boyfriend tried to separate us by pulling us away from each other and by attempting to stand between us but we ignored him and continued. My boyfriend really doesn't like conflict or people screaming and he was probably very frustrated at that time so he left and went into the house. We where both angry and I definitely wanted to punch him but I still had enough self control to restrain myself. I fully believe in freedom of speech and I know that violence is never an acceptable response to someone expressing an opinion. Then he punched me with a closed fist in the face. I don't remember feeling afraid or like I was defending myself when I hit back. What I felt was a strange mix of hatred and excitement. We traded a few punches and then one of mine caused him to fall to the ground. I imminently kicked him in the chest and was then pulled away from him by his dad.

That kick is what I regret the most. It was excessive, dangerous, and completely unnecessary. I kicked someone laying defenselessly on the ground and I didn't feel anything for him until several hours later. I'm terrified of the person I was then but that person is still me. I did that but I can't understand why. I was not afraid and I remember doing it deliberately. I keep thinking about what would have happened if no one was around to stop me after that kick. Would I have kicked him again? How many times? I can't answer those questions and that's the most terrifying thing.

My boyfriend wrote that we both had substantial injuries. I don't think that's true. I had a black eye and some bruises. My boyfriend's brother had a broken rib and a concussion. My injuries were not substantial compared to his which is why I don't think it's unfair for me to pay for his medical bills. I would have done that even without the threat of reporting me to the police.

Some comments on the post indicated that my boyfriend's brother should either be more to blame or should feel ashamed of losing because of his gender. I disagree. Gender should not have anything to do with this. It's possible that he feels differently and is ashamed of losing to a woman but I don't think he should feel that way even within that value system as it was essentially random. He could just as well have knocked me to the ground with his first punch. I don't think strength or skills played any significant role.

[Suede_shoes]

“I kicked someone laying defenselessly on the ground “. Wow. He was defenseless against her kick. And on top of that, if he threw the first punch, it was likely because she dominated him in their debate and he got frustrated. That’s pretty hot in and of itself. What do y’all think?

Originally Posted by PurpleCat [Only Registered Users Can See LinksClick Here To Register]

I kicked someone laying defenselessly on the ground

[Amazonia]

Like someone in the comments said, the most humiliating part is that he didn't just lose to any woman but to a liberal "snowflake" woman. LOL

She owned him so badly that she even felt bad for him despite his assault and wanted to pay for medical bills for him as his injuries as the loser of the fistfight were far greater, but this was just rubbing salt in his wounds as she just confirmed that she was the clear winner of the fight and that he lost to a woman with a sensitive personality.

No wonder his family is in denial about what happened.

That's if this actually happened or if her account is correct. I tend to not believe things on sites like reddit, internet is just one huge role playing game.

[Notsure4321]

Originally Posted by Amazonia [Only Registered Users Can See LinksClick Here To Register]

That's if this actually happened or if her account is correct. I tend to not believe things on sites like reddit, internet is just one huge role playing game.

It's obviously a fake story.

[Amazonia]

Originally Posted by Notsure4321 [Only Registered Users Can See LinksClick Here To Register]

It's obviously a fake story.

I don't know. I actually saw a similar political argument between male and female escalating into violence in real life, although in that situation the female was conservative who kept talking something negative about Muslims and the liberal boy was arguing with her and they eventually ended up in a scuffle but were separated rather quickly. The fight was even while it lasted, maybe even the girl had a bit of upper hand, but it was more like grappling and not a fist fight.

As for the woman knocking out the man in this story, it's plausible because we don't really know anything about their size and what kind of shape they were in. Maybe his older brother is disabled or was just extremely drunk, or the girl is very tall or something. The girl was also downplaying her victory which makes me think she had some sort of advantage.

I wouldn't really say it's obviously fake.

[Notsure4321]

Originally Posted by Amazonia [Only Registered Users Can See LinksClick Here To Register]

I don't know. I actually saw a similar political argument between male and female escalating into violence in real life, although in that situation the female was conservative who kept talking something negative about Muslims and the liberal boy was arguing with her and they eventually ended up in a scuffle but were separated rather quickly. The fight was even while it lasted, maybe even the girl had a bit of upper hand, but it was more like grappling and not a fist fight.

As for the woman knocking out the man in this story, it's plausible because we don't really know anything about their size and what kind of shape they were in. Maybe his older brother is disabled or was just extremely drunk, or the girl is very tall or something. The girl was also downplaying her victory which makes me think she had some sort of advantage.

I wouldn't really say it's obviously fake.

Neither of those are the reason i think it's fake.

For one the GF and OP have the same writing style and it's on Reddit

But mainly, it's all just written like a bad budget movie script. Like every single part is written to make the brother and his family out to be the antagonist and the girlfriend to be the protagonist.

His brother starts the argument
His brother throws the first punch
His brother is a secret racist
He just walks into the house after having to stand between them because that's just how people act when reacting to your GF and brother getting into a drunken staredown.
Also for some reason he leaves this out of his story and we don't find out about it until her story.
Also he doesn't even think about or mentioning who got up into the others face first.
Also for some reason we only get her side of the story and not her brothers, you know like in bad movies where you only get the protagonist side of the story
His dad waits until is brother is losing to breaking up the fight
His parents act like she is a Capulet and he is a Montague
Everyone is against the Girlfriend accept his little sister who is telling the truth.
Everyone else is also a secret racist and secretly scheming with the brother to take down his protagonist GF
His early 20s girlfriend continues to be really mature about the situation, but for some reason got into a drunk fight a few days ago
Ect.

[PurpleCat]

Originally Posted by Amazonia [Only Registered Users Can See LinksClick Here To Register]

I don't know. I actually saw a similar political argument between male and female escalating into violence in real life, although in that situation the female was conservative who kept talking something negative about Muslims and the liberal boy was arguing with her and they eventually ended up in a scuffle but were separated rather quickly. The fight was even while it lasted, maybe even the girl had a bit of upper hand, but it was more like grappling and not a fist fight.

As for the woman knocking out the man in this story, it's plausible because we don't really know anything about their size and what kind of shape they were in. Maybe his older brother is disabled or was just extremely drunk, or the girl is very tall or something. The girl was also downplaying her victory which makes me think she had some sort of advantage.

I wouldn't really say it's obviously fake.

They are near the same size and they both were drinking. As for the story being potentially fake, I would lean towards it being true for the simple fact that this was posted on a throwaway account, which are used for getting advice without giving away anything person from their post history.

But the comments on this thread makes it seem like this is fake idk

[Amazonia]

Originally Posted by Notsure4321 [Only Registered Users Can See LinksClick Here To Register]

Neither of those are the reason i think it's fake.

For one the GF and OP have the same writing style and it's on Reddit

But mainly, it's all just written like a bad budget movie script. Like every single part is written to make the brother and his family out to be the antagonist and the girlfriend to be the protagonist.

His brother starts the argument
His brother throws the first punch
His brother is a secret racist
He just walks into the house after having to stand between them because that's just how people act when reacting to your GF and brother getting into a drunken staredown.
Also for some reason he leaves this out of his story and we don't find out about it until her story.
Also he doesn't even think about or mentioning who got up into the others face first.
Also for some reason we only get her side of the story and not her brothers, you know like in bad movies where you only get the protagonist side of the story
His dad waits until is brother is losing to breaking up the fight
His parents act like she is a Capulet and he is a Montague
Everyone is against the Girlfriend accept his little sister who is telling the truth.
Everyone else is also a secret racist and secretly scheming with the brother to take down his protagonist GF
His early 20s girlfriend continues to be really mature about the situation, but for some reason got into a drunk fight a few days ago
Ect.

Well the reason why I think it might be fake is also because of the political aspect. But the OP didn't talk about this in original story and it only came out after they asked him about it. People originally assumed that the girl was some crazy Trump supporter who assaulted and racism was never mentioned in the first reddit threat.

Also I would not agree she is any sort of protagonist either. She was getting into stupid heated arguments with her BF's family and screaming into people faces at their home the first time she met them. She kept arguing and escalating the situation even when repeatedly told to stop by her BF who tried to separate her from his brother.

I don't know what kind of normal person would approve of that kind of behavior, regardless whether she threw the first punch or not. But maybe on reddit people think that this type of behavior is cool these days I don't know. I don't live in America either so maybe everyone got crazy over politics there who knows.

The bad movie script would be more along the lines of the older brother initiating everything or even throwing obvious racial taunts at her and she would then reply calmly with something witty and he would eventually lose his mind.

But yeah, it could just as well be fake, although it's not really obvious, I mean if it is a fake story you have to give some credit to the OP for trying his best to make it look believable.