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Can anyone participating in bdsm activities called normal for real and aren't we all, in terms of social normalcy/acceptability, crazy?
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Yes, people who participate in BDSM activities with consenting adults are perfectly normal. The cardinal rule behind BDSM is just that: consent and respecting your partner’s kinks and especially their limits.
I have never been ashamed of what I find attractive and what turns me on. What does embarrass me, unfortunately, are dudes like the aforementioned who are very creepy towards session wrestlers and women in general. It sucks when I encounter people who are into the same thing I am, but very clearly have no idea how to properly conduct themselves around women. I am friends with quite a few female strength athletes, and you would not believe the kinds of messages they get both from men who like to criticize their particular discipline or physique (I.e. the “you look like a man,” or “that’s not feminine” comments,) or those who just throw their fetish toward strong women without their consent (I.e. the “I want to armwrestle you” “I want you to beat me up” “how big are you biceps marry me plz.”) I’m not a big fan of the word “schmoe,” but I’ll use it here for convenience’s sake. These women don’t have a problem with guys that find them attractive or that are into wrestling or strength/athletic-based fetishes. What does bother them are the way that schmoes conduct themselves with the social skills of someone who was raised in a barn, or schmoes who clearly don’t respect boundaries and engage in plain stalker behavior, like asking for a session wrestler’s real name. Or worst of all, like this guy is doing, trying again and again after being told “no” again and again.
Again, being involved in BDSM, or being into session wrestling doesn’t make you abnormal, or crazy. What makes you crazy is acting in a way that is unbefitting of a respectful human being.